"What The Heck Does He Want?"
Your baby mystifies you. If you could only figure out what he wants, you would
be happy to help. Some days are smooth sailing and others???? Well, let's just say
you wish it didn't involve so much crying. Those days, you feel confused, lost,
and most of all helpless.
(Are you feeling helpless every day? Skip to "High-Need Babies")
You have tried deciphering cries, rationalizing, reading books, watching videos,
classes, therapy, talking to your friends and family. You are fed up and it's not for
lack of trying. As you have come to realize, your baby did not come with an
instruction manual. Of any kind. Zero. Zip. Zilch. Nada. No Instruction
Manual.
"Great." you say. "Now what?"
When you are an unhappy parent, whether it is your first baby, or fifth, it can
be really hard to figure out why they cry. What is their problem? Are they really in
pain or just manipulating you? How could they need so much? And when you do
figure out the what is causing the problem: You are still left with:
"I can't take it any more. What do I do now?"
This question is legitimate and probably scary. You are an adult. You should
know how to do this, right?
Wrong.
Most of us were not raised in a community where we observed babies being
parented. You may have memories of your siblings, or you may have babysat.
Chances are, you never learned the basics of babyhood.
If this is the case, then probably, you, like many parents, could use some
help. That doesn't mean you know what kind of help you are needing, or where to
get it. It just means that you could use some help of some kind. When you are
exhausted and rattled from your baby's demands, it's hard to know what to do.
You can feel as if you are the only one who gone through this and just want to give
up.
"My baby's still howling. Can I get some help, like right NOW?"
Can you try this? Take a moment and relax with your baby. Right now... Even if
they are howling....Take a deep breath in and let it out....remember why you did
this.
You may not believe this, but you are the expert in what is best for your
child. Deep inside, you know what to do.
What you probably need is just a couple of things to be confident in your
abilities, to know that you know your baby and that you are the perfect parent for
your child. Here are some things that might help you.
Here's why I am passionate about babies:
My own not-so-great experiences frustrated me and I wanted some kind of
peace around mothering. I started with an unexpected cesarean followed by a year
of crying and postpartum depression, a high-need baby and a full-time business. I
learned breastfeeding the hard way. After two years of working full-time, I quit to
be a stay-at-home mom. When I found out I was pregnant with twins, I was
terrified! What if I had another cesarean and three kids like my first?
The turning point was during the pregnancy with my twins when I had my
first Resonance Repatterning session and went on to have a VBAC at home. The
twins were and are calmer and less needy than their brother. I became a La Leche
League Leader in 1998 and a Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) in 2010.
I studied Resonance Repatterning for 10 years and become a Certified Practitioner
in 2009.
My kids are my teachers. They have uncompromising demands for my personal
growth. They have allowed (or forced) me to live spiritual qualities like grace, joy,
connection, humility, acceptance and humor.
While I can't help everybody, I do have a few ways parents can get some help:
For Breastfeeding help and Lactation Consulting
For Infant Sleep Problems
Your baby mystifies you. If you could only figure out what he wants, you would
be happy to help. Some days are smooth sailing and others???? Well, let's just say
you wish it didn't involve so much crying. Those days, you feel confused, lost,
and most of all helpless.
(Are you feeling helpless every day? Skip to "High-Need Babies")
You have tried deciphering cries, rationalizing, reading books, watching videos,
classes, therapy, talking to your friends and family. You are fed up and it's not for
lack of trying. As you have come to realize, your baby did not come with an
instruction manual. Of any kind. Zero. Zip. Zilch. Nada. No Instruction
Manual.
"Great." you say. "Now what?"
When you are an unhappy parent, whether it is your first baby, or fifth, it can
be really hard to figure out why they cry. What is their problem? Are they really in
pain or just manipulating you? How could they need so much? And when you do
figure out the what is causing the problem: You are still left with:
"I can't take it any more. What do I do now?"
This question is legitimate and probably scary. You are an adult. You should
know how to do this, right?
Wrong.
Most of us were not raised in a community where we observed babies being
parented. You may have memories of your siblings, or you may have babysat.
Chances are, you never learned the basics of babyhood.
If this is the case, then probably, you, like many parents, could use some
help. That doesn't mean you know what kind of help you are needing, or where to
get it. It just means that you could use some help of some kind. When you are
exhausted and rattled from your baby's demands, it's hard to know what to do.
You can feel as if you are the only one who gone through this and just want to give
up.
"My baby's still howling. Can I get some help, like right NOW?"
Can you try this? Take a moment and relax with your baby. Right now... Even if
they are howling....Take a deep breath in and let it out....remember why you did
this.
You may not believe this, but you are the expert in what is best for your
child. Deep inside, you know what to do.
What you probably need is just a couple of things to be confident in your
abilities, to know that you know your baby and that you are the perfect parent for
your child. Here are some things that might help you.
- Group support can be a sanity saver. Just knowing: "I am not the only
one!" causes a huge release in tension.
- Some explanation of basic baby behaviors may help you to write your
own instruction manual and save you both a lot of irritation with each other.
- Private sessions around specific blocks in parenting, breastfeeding, or
birth trauma can get rid of that which may be causing unnecessary stress.
Read more about Private Sessions.
Here's why I am passionate about babies:
My own not-so-great experiences frustrated me and I wanted some kind of
peace around mothering. I started with an unexpected cesarean followed by a year
of crying and postpartum depression, a high-need baby and a full-time business. I
learned breastfeeding the hard way. After two years of working full-time, I quit to
be a stay-at-home mom. When I found out I was pregnant with twins, I was
terrified! What if I had another cesarean and three kids like my first?
The turning point was during the pregnancy with my twins when I had my
first Resonance Repatterning session and went on to have a VBAC at home. The
twins were and are calmer and less needy than their brother. I became a La Leche
League Leader in 1998 and a Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) in 2010.
I studied Resonance Repatterning for 10 years and become a Certified Practitioner
in 2009.
My kids are my teachers. They have uncompromising demands for my personal
growth. They have allowed (or forced) me to live spiritual qualities like grace, joy,
connection, humility, acceptance and humor.
While I can't help everybody, I do have a few ways parents can get some help:
For Breastfeeding help and Lactation Consulting
For Infant Sleep Problems
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