I’d like to set the record straight on some Relationship Myths:

  • Grieving means lots of crying. Crying actually keeps you from experiencing
    and releasing the deep sadness held in your body.
  • Traditional talk therapy is the gold standard for family problems. It's
    great that people are finally comfortable getting help and there are many new
    therapies that work better.
  • Postpartum Depression and ADD have nothing to do with relationships.
    Both of these are greatly reduced with proper family and social support.
  • Being or having a teen means surefire insanity. All right, I take it back,
    this one's partially true! But, you can learn from those crazy times, using
    them as a tool for deepening your relationship with your child.
  • Your relationship is sunk because your partner refuses to 'get help'.
    The only person you can change is yourself. If all your needs for trust,
    security, and love were met and you were able to approach your partner with
    love, compassion and kind words, what might happen then?   
  • Divorces are always nasty. It's not easy, but you can grow personally and
    become kind adults during your separation and new relationship.
  • When someone dies, that's the end of the relationship. Thank goodness,
    you can learn to keep someone alive in your heart in a loving way without
    sorrow or bitterness.

Nearly everyone who is happy in their heart knows these secrets:
Relationships change over time and need adjustments. Unhappy relationships are
never one person's fault. The way to have a great relationships is to accept, forgive
and take responsibility for your actions.  But...you already know all that....and you
are doing it to the best of your ability.

When you are in an unhappy or difficult relationship, whether it is with your
new baby, your partner, or your deceased parent, for that matter, it can be really
hard to figure out what is going on. Are you the one with the problem? Or are
they? Or is it a combination of both? Are there circumstances beyond your control?  
And when you do figure out the who, what, and where of the problem: You are still
left with "How are we going to improve things?"

These questions are legitimate, but you are asking them too soon. What probably
comes first is: “Do we need help?”

If you answered “Yes” then you, like the rest of us, could use some help. That
doesn't mean you know what kind of help you are needing, or where to get it. It
just means that you could use some help of some kind.  

"Okay, so I need help. Now what?"

Acknowledging that frees you to look for help that fits you and your situation. I
work with many different relaionships because, no matter what the presenting
situation looks or sounds like, the patterns of relating are the same.

When we are angry, afraid, depressed or in a bad relationship, we can freeze and
avoid seeking help. Especially, if the other person is unable or refuses to be
involved in the process. We can sometimes feel as if we are walking on eggshells.
Even if that seems irrational (and sometimes it’s not), it is how we are feeling.

We’ve spent a lifetime building up defenses and compensations that have helped us
survive. It's hard to know when it's safe to let those defenses down or even to let
them go. "What if I make the wrong choice?" "What if it doesn’t work?" Who can
handle more disappointment on top of what we already have?

Our brain is simple and predictable. It remembers how to protect us from life-
threatening situations. However, we can spend years doing something that doesn't
serve us anymore because our brain only remembers how we survived in the past.
It will do anything to keep us from harm and our brain constantly pushes away
things that don't match what it knows.

Now, I don’t expect your brain to trust me right away, so I offer easy, private, free
segments so you can get some immediate help, try the work, and see if you like it.  
I’m the same way: When I want help, I want to be treated with love and care and at
my own speed.

I'm here to help people in relationships that suck. The Start-Your-Week-Right is
one way I do that. You have a private place to work on your relationship. You can
send me a problem EVERY WEEK. You don't have to do anything except be open to
a boost of love and joy every Monday. I facilitate the group session and add some
insights about the wacky and wonderful aspects of relationships and then, I send
you an email. I include a Positive Action you can do, if you want to.

If it seems like a good fit, sign up for the Start-Your-Week-Right. This weekly
Repatterning works like magic,  but it's not a hocus-pocus. It's works through basic
energetic principles of resonance, entrainment and intention. The weekly summary
explains what shifted and why. You'll probably find the information is interesting,
the session integrates easily, and it's private. Heck, you don't even have to use
your real name!

Resonance RepatterningTM is a comprehensive system that is based on 3000+
years of tried and tested healing methods. The unconscious brain is constantly
streaming information, and that hasn't changed in all these centuries. What has
changed is being able to tap that knowledge and gather almost every energetic
modality into one system. It's a powerful and precise process, as amazing as having
turn-by-turn directions streaming through your GPS.

Are you interested in learning more about how your unconscious brain works? Can
you appreciate the immense potential to make your life easier? Can you see that
your whole approach to relationships would be vastly different, if you had access to
its wisdom?

If you haven’t yet subscribed, that’s the place to start. You will start getting a
weekly boost around the vital issues of loving, being loved, and focusing on the
positive things in your life in a very safe, non-judgmental way. Don't think
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If this makes sense,  try the work by subscribing to my free weekly session:
The  Start-Your-Week-Right.

And, I offer other sessions and workshops that will help you have more harmony in
your relationships. Working with Donna
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Relationship Myths
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