"I spent most of my pregnancy studying pregnancy, labor and birthing. There was a page on latching your baby for breastfeeding, but I didn't really pay attention because I was worried about handling contractions during labor. I didn't even think about breastfeeding, because I figured it was natural, and it would just happen naturally."
You wouldn't plan a wedding without planning a honeymoon.
A honeymoon is a time of celebration, rest, and exploration in your new life together. It involves research. You reserve your accommodations, restaurants, recreation and beautiful, romantic spots to enjoy each other's company in. You may buy lingerie, special outfits and gear. You probably spend hours packing and repacking your bags.
And you will definitely search blogs and reviews for places to avoid and potential pitfalls in your plan. A honeymoon is supposed to memorable in a good way and most people understand that honeymoons require a fair amount of planning.
Parents enjoy Babymoons while they are pregnant-- massages, luxurious meals, easy walks, shopping, dreaming and cuddling. Many are figuring, "This is our last chance for many years!"
Yet, most new parents don't plan for a "honeymoon" after welcoming their new baby.
As a result, the Fourth Trimester is an exhausting Pandora's Box of opened gifts, last-minute meals, naïveté and tears.
Why would you spend months preparing just the right layette, picking the perfect name, interviewing pediatricians and obstetricians, researching the perfect birth, and assume your baby will just naturally and magically feed and sleep like they do on TV?
"Breastfeeding is natural, isn't it? How did humans survive in the past? We aren't worried, we'll figure it out!"
For some, there is a cultural belief that investing oneself in the birthed baby may cause harm. No purchases or planning can happen until the healthy baby arrives. That may work in your native culture with abundant, close-knit family support. But it does not work in your average American suburban, or urban, single family home with both parents working right up until birth.
Listen! Breastfeeding is part of the birthing process, not a separate, nor even a different event.
Babies who birth vaginally without medication, placed on their mother's belly and observed, crawl to the nipple and are usually feeding themselves within an hour after they are born! This stimulates the release of your placenta, which starts your breasts making milk. The process of breastfeeding contracts and heals your uterus. It continues the immune protection given in-utero along with the protection, comfort and closeness of your body. Your baby needs this!