Why do women fail at breastfeeding?

"I gave birth on Friday. There was no lactation help over the weekend. A pediatrician would only discharge us, if we fed our baby 4 oz. of formula. I was anxious, didn't know what to do, and ultimately, I failed at breastfeeding my baby."

It’s not fair to say women fail at breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding is often intuitive and straightforward and many women begin breastfeeding easily and effortlessly. Yet a high percentage of women blame themselves without ever really knowing why breastfeeding their baby didn’t work out.

It’s more accurate to say women are sabotaged and never had a chance to succeed.

I’ve been helping mothers breastfeed for over 20 years, and it can be heart-wrenching work. I see families that don't receive breastfeeding education during pregnancy, let alone during school health classes, or sex education classes.

Somehow breastfeeding is considered so wonderful, so instinctive, and so natural, that we are expected to just intuitively know everything about it.

During pregnancy and after a baby is born, most hospital programs don't provide enough teaching and coaching. Most parents aren't sure that breastfeeding is going well before they leaves the hospital. Most pediatricians say they are pro-breastfeeding, (and the American Academy of Pediatrics has a supportive breastfeeding policy,) but are quick to provide non-breastfeeding interventions, if a baby isn't gaining weight fast enough.

So many women are not meeting their breastfeeding goals.

Even though about 80% of women in the United States leave the hospital breastfeeding and would like to exclusively breastfeed for about 6-12 months, there is a huge drop off between 2 weeks and 2 months resulting in about 84% of babies receiving some, or all, formula feed by 6 months of age.

By comparison, the United States Healthy People 2020 has set targets for babies to be exclusively breastfeeding. The targets for the year 2020 are: 82% of babies “ever breastfed”, 75% at 6 months, and 34% at 1 year. We did not meet this target!

Not breastfeeding is a cultural and structural problem.

Fortunately, all kinds of people in the US are working to increase breastfeeding rates. We are making progress and the change is happening through three channels: 

1. Protection -  This includes laws that protect breastfeeding in public, pumping breaks at work, maternity leave along with education and policy statements for health care practitioners to follow. This includes laws requiring health insurance companies to include lactation counseling and breast pumps with maternity benefits.

2.  Promotion - This includes women nursing in public, scientists publishing research, government agencies creating public service ads, doctors encouraging women to breastfeed, World Breastfeeding Month activities, and displaying images of breastfeeding babies ev